About 90% percent of male narcissists are extremely addicted to porn and about 98% percent of female narcissists will use their sexuality as a form of control.
Female covert narcissists and sex
If you are in an intimate relationship with a female narcissist, she will try to control you by withholding sex if you don’t do whatever she wants.
Most female narcissists will withhold sex if their partners won’t buy them gifts or if their partners wont supports them financially.
Most female narcissists will use their sexually as a form of control, they give you sex as a form of a reward if you have done something they’ve asked for.
Male covert narcissists and sex
Most male narcissists are extremely hypersexual and 90% percent of male narcissists are extremely addicted to porn. Generally, most male narcissists are great lovers at first but they usually use females as sex object.
Most male narcissists usually love bomb their female partners during the early days of the relationship just to hook them in to falling in love so they can use them for sex in the long run.
Are male and female narcissists hypersexual?
Not all narcissists are the same but most narcissists may seem like they are hyper sexual during the early days of the relationship.
If you are in an intimate relationship with a narcissist, during the early days your narc will love bomb you and will also give you the best sex you’ve ever had.
The problem with having sex with a narcissist is that they will use their sexuality as a form of control over time.
Narcissists will give you great sex during the early days when dating you but after a few months, they will definitely use sex as a form of control.
Are covert narcissists sex addict?
Not really, but most narcissists will come across as sex addict.
Remember, 90% of men love sex.
If you are in an intimate relation ship with a male covert narcissist, he can seem extremely hyper sexual, why? Because this is another form of narcissistic supply.
Most male narcissists are addicted to porn, which means, they will try to love bomb their female partners during the early days of the relationship in order to manipulate them in to doing everything the narc want.
Male narcissists will try their best to convince you that you are the one, they will try their best to make you feel speciall in order to use you for sex and make you do things in bed that you have never imagined doing.
I’m a 32-year-old female, I dated a 27-year-old narcissist about a year ago, he loved bombed me and he made me feel like I was the one.
After dating him for 3 weeks, I felt like he was the one for me, I felt like he was the guy I was supposed to spend my life with, he was a good manipulator and also a great liar as well.
After a few weeks of dating, he made me do things that I have never imagined myself doing, he wanted me to do a lot of things in bed that I was not comfortable with.
He watched a lot of porn and he was extremely addicted in watching porn videos online.
Not all male narcissists are addicted to porn but 90% percent of male narcissists are definitely hyper sexual.
The reason I’m saying that is because about 5 of my female best friends have told me that their x narcissists boyfriends were extremely hypersexual and were porn addict.
Being hypersexual is another form of narcissistic supply, making women do what they want in bed kind of feeds their ego.
If a male narcissist can quickly make someone have sex with them, it is another way to feed their own ego.
It isn’t the actual sex that important to them though, it the process of obtaining it.
They don’t feel good just because they’ve had sex with you, they only feel good that they’ve made you do what they wanted you to do in order to please them sexually such as making you do uncomfortable things such as (anal sex) and more.
They feel good once they secure and get what they hunted for.
Not only do they feel good on the feeling they get from catching their prey, but they also feel good on discarding them when they’ve had enough of them sexually.
By being able to act this way and get away with it, it proves to himself and others that he’s great and special.
Sex with a narcissist is usually incredible at first.
If you are dating a narcissist, the sex will be incredible at first since everything with them is a dramatic performance.
In a long-term relationship, the sex may dull, decrease or even be non-existent.
If you are in a long-term relationship with a narcissist, especially a covert narcissist, they will try their best to use sex as a form of control.
Male narcissist will only have sex with you if you agree to do what they desire such as having uncomfortable sex like anal.
Female narcissist will only have sex with you if you have given them gifts, money of if you have done what they asked for.
Generally, sex is very transactional when you are in a log term relationship with a covert narcissist.
Not all narcissists are the same sexually.
Even though not all narcissists are the same, if you were previously in an intimate relation with a narcissist I would highly advice you to go check for STD’s and STI’s just to make sure you are clean.
Believe it or not, but a friend of mine who happens to be a professional doctor once told me that most of the time both female and male narcissists have some type of an STD.
When I broke up with my x narcissist, his friend and his brother told me that he was HIV positive but luckily, I’ve never had unprotected sex with him.
I hope this article was helpful, good luck and god bless.
My name is Amanda Bale and everything I’ve written in this post was based on my personal experience. I’m not a doctor and also not a therapist, I’m just a person who have suffered a lot during my previous relationship with my exe narcissist boyfriend.
I still miss him at times and sometimes I feel like a made a mistake of leaving him, but I’m glad that I did because I have peace and I’m very happy even though I still kind of love him in a way.
If you still miss your exe narcissist, you are not alone… it will get better as time goes on.